The Thing About Responsibility

You have a responsibility in every decision you make in your life.

It’s easy to make excuses for yourself and deny opportunities for growth and learn more about life as it goes on.

At some point we all have to grow up; it’s an inevitable part of life as well.  There is always an opportunity to learn more, to expand your knowledge on what goes on in the world.

Whether you choose good or bad, the decisions is your responsibility. This life is what you make it

Therefore in this one life you have to

Get serious about your Life

Get serious about your Future

Get serious about your Goals

Get serious about your Naturalness

Get serious about Yourself

“May you live every day of your life.”
― Jonathan Swift

Imagine The Worst- New Beginnings

“It’s never too late to become who you want to be. I hope you live a life that you’re proud of, and if you find that you’re not, I hope you have the strength to start over.” The Curious Case of Benjamin Button

Nothing on earth was intended to be perfect. If we’ve learned anything this year, it’s that we won’t ever be ready for what life throws at us. Bravely accept the fact that this world is damaged.

Confront your reality; don’t just imagine the worst without any action taken.

Remind yourself to be mindful of your actions and convey kindness instead of malice.

Don’t let your motivation be fueled by selfishness.

There’s nothing more important to life than living with purpose. Make it your life’s purpose to live a life of genuineness and value. There’s always time for a new beginning , so live a life of quality.

“The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide you’re not going to stay where you are.” J.P Morgan

Life-The Inevitable

“We spend precious hours fearing the inevitable. It would be wise to use that time adoring our families, cherishing our friends and living our lives”. Maya Angelou

We meet many different people throughout our lives. Many of them we don’t really make a connection with, and some of them we grow attached to. Everyone knows death is inevitable, but it does not make it easier knowing that fact. I realize that nothing is constant in life. I now understand why the older you are, the bigger your fear of loss gets. There are people in our lives that stays till the end of it all. Build meaningful relationships and remember to make memories that will last a lifetime.

Inevitable comes from the Latin word inevitabilis, which means unavoidable. If you say something is inevitable, you know that no matter what , it’s going to happen sooner or later.

In others word the things about life that are incapable of being avoided or evaded

Death is inevitable. All things living will one day die. It is a natural law and has been the end of life of everything on the planet.

Change is inevitable. All things will change, evolve and take a new shape. This is inevitable because things won’t remain the same and nothing last forever

To both of my Grandparents who are no longer with us, I hope you enjoyed your time on this earth.  It was an honor to have you in my life. You both gave me two parents I love dearly and family members who are forever my people. I hope to see you both in my next lifetime. May God bless your souls- Rest In Peace.

Solitude For You and Me

“The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself. “

Some of use like being alone and having peace of mind. I personally like my space and being alone. Solitude is good for the soul; get to know yourself a bit more. Spend more time enjoying your company and listening to yourself.

Alone: “all” and “one,” which is really all you need to know to understand the word. A person who is alone is all-in-one; there’s no one else around.

Loneliness: the state of being alone and feeling sad about it.

Being alone and being lonely are two different things . Taking a drive and listening to music is being alone; You can be alone while enjoying yourself. Being lonely puts you in a miserable state.

“If you’re lonely when you’re alone, you’re in bad company.”

From A Dreamer To Another

“It’s better to look ahead and prepare, than to look back and regret.”

Be honest with yourself and figure out what changed over the years. Write down your reasons for taking on a different path. Take a chance and chase after your dreams, there’s no deadline for making it happen. Success and failure are a part of life, there’s no easy escape. 

What changes do you need to make about your life?

Why did you forget about your dreams?

What did you wish to do be when you grow up? 

We must not let society change us to a point of no going back. Everyone had or has a dream they want to make come true. For some it’s to be happy and live freely, for others it’s landing that dream job. Don’t let your past determine your future, especially if you are struggling to get by. Decisions ……decisions take a leap and go after what you want. Don’t find excuses to staying as you are and have life regrets later on. 

From A Dream

“All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.” Walt Disney

As kids we dream about being anything and everything, one minute you want to be an astronaut and the next a Super Hero. Somehow the world changes us, as we get into adulthood and start having responsibilities.  We start to focus on the things we should be doing rather than what we want to be doing. It can be a sad reality, when you realize that’s what life has amount to, to forgetting about your beautiful dreams of becoming something you wished for.

What do you do dream about these days?

Do you still dream?

 Don’t give up on what you are really passionate about. Remembered to reintroduce yourself to your dreams, whether if its an old or new dream, don’t forget about it.  There are many possibilities waiting to be explored, believe in yourself.

For The Love Around

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”― Lao Tzu

For the love of love, love yourself, love the people around you and be loved. We seem to love the idea of love, rather than knowing what love is. There’s a lot of different love to experience in this world. Everyone gives and receives love differently.  Some of us are just better at giving love and experiencing the different stages of love. Remember to look for and choose the love that makes you feel alive and excited about life.   

Unconditional Love: The love we all want to receive, because humans are inherently selfish.

Romantic Love: The intimate love, the need to connect with the one you have feelings for.

Familiar Love:  The love from friends and family members who are there for us through thick and thin.

Self-love: Ahhh this love is, the most important love of them all, you cannot freely love others , if you don’t love yourself first. Be confident in loving everything about you.

“ Don’t be selfish with love, experience the joy that it has to offer” 

When It Comes To Making Time

“Time is a created thing. To say ‘I don’t have time,’ is like saying, ‘I don’t want to.”

We make time for the things we want to make time for. That may be true, but some of us are really busy and struggling to make time for the people around us. As we enter the so called adulthood, there’s many things to think about and changing some of our habits. It’s hard balancing a professional and social life. Nonetheless, complaining about life doesn’t get us anywhere.

What are you making time for 

What do you value the most

How important is your time

We make ourselves believe we have all the time in the world. Which comes the question “ How much time do we really have”? Adulthood makes us question so many things about life. 

Do we have enough time to achieve our goals?

When will our dreams come true?

How long will it take to make it in life? (Whatever that means)

Time is all that you have & don’t have, only you control what you use yours for. 

Let’s Hangout: Building Relationship

Let’s Hangout; Something to Change

Everyone is so busy living their lives that we’re forgetting to build relationships that will last. Relationship with people that will be there for us at the lowest and highest point of our lives. Me time is important , so is building relationships with those around us. Me time helps you with a healthy lifestyle, a better you, and a peaceful day. Building relationships helps with an understanding of human life, what it means to rely on someone, vice versa and just being there for someone who might need you.

Let’s hangout, but when I have time. Well we need to start making time, there are things in life that are more enjoyable by experiencing it with family and friends. Let’s start making time for those around us; make the effort to mind the people that cares for us. A phone call, a text of “ How are you “. Form a connection that means something, a connection that benefits the relationships. Let’s make time to hangout and get to know each other. Take time to appreciate the relationships that make a difference in your life.

Come To Your Senses

“By changing nothing, nothing changes.”

Tell me something, are you OK

Is it so hard, are you still struggling 

Do you still don’t know what to do 

Are you trying to figure stuff out 

Exactly how long do you need 

Exactly what kind of change will you make 

Exactly how will you change 

Is there a need for change 

Think about it……….. again……… think about it

I can tell you to change your life many times, but if you just wanna sit there and complain and complain nothing is going to happen .you are just going to be someone who complains about life. I don’t know if that’s a good thing, it’s definitely not a good thing. nobody wants to be around someone who complains all the time. Sometimes, actions speak louder than words.  you need to start as of now. You need to want to change

To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often.

Look How Far You’ve Come

“I believe that no matter what situation in life you find yourself, there is room for you to take control of little things, which ultimately adds up to big things.”

Tell me something, how are you feeling about yourself. Everyone seems to be on the grind with new ventures and new ideas planned out for the new year. Its time for you to push yourself and take the first step of implementing your ideas.

Embrace what makes you, YOU, use your strength to your benefit, if you don’t know what your strengths are, figure them out, write them down. Don’t compare yourself to others, that puts you in a place of disadvantage. 

Familiarities and comfort are sometimes the weaknesses you might fail to identify. Don’t get too comfortable and become enervated. It takes time to reverse the effects of being too comfortable and personality traits that hold you back. Get to work, start planning and organizing your ideas.

“Moving forward requires that one first take a step.”

  • Start Small
  • Write down a list of your ideas
  • Don’t let fear stop you
  • Tackle procrastination head-on
  • Reward yourself
  • Visualize yourself succeeding
  • Chose success. 

To New Experiences & New Memories

“You’ll never get bored when you try something new. There’s really no limit to what you can do.” 

It’s a brand new day and new year to try something different. The term “ New Year, New Me” may seem overrated, but there can be a new you,  if you work to find a better version of yourself. In the word of Steve Harvey “You are never too old to reinvent yourself.” so here’s to new experiences, new goals to achieve, new adventures, and new memories. 

Happy New Year; May 2020 bring you more happiness, more of everything you are looking forward to. 

“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.”C.S. Lewis

Holiday Spirits- What about you?

“I don’t think Christmas is necessarily about things. It’s about being good to one another, it’s about kindness.”

I’ve noticed a lot of memes saying” Everyone gift is still at the store. It may be funny, but there’s much truth behind it. We are all struggling in some way with bills, student loans, and living expenses. Due to society’s obsession with materialistic things, we’ve made giving a Christmas gift a necessity. 

Be in the holiday spirits, and be joyful, but don’t stress yourself out buying gifts you cannot afford. There’s also this saying” it’s the thought that counts” live by that as well. Any kind of gift shows your thoughtfulness.   

ANNOUNCEMENT: A Christmas card, is also a gift.  

In the name of Self Care & Self-Love

“As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.” —Maya Angelou

A lot of us forget to put ourselves first in life, so how are you doing in the self-care department? Everyone should know the term self -care or self-love.

  • The practices of taking action to preserve or improve one’s own health.
  • The practices of taking an active role in protecting one’s own well-being and happiness, in particular during periods of stress.
    “expressing oneself is an essential form of self-care”

It is more important to be true to yourself than to try to satisfy everyone else and get hurt along the way, remember you have the right to be yourself. Your time and energy are precious, so do something nice for yourself. Find what puts a smile on your face, sit in stillness, put your problems on pause even if its just a for a day. you need to take the time to look after yourself.

A round of applause for everyone who is trying hard to make it on their own.

“You owe yourself the love that you so freely give others.” – 

  • Develop a regular sleep routine.
  • Go for a walk at lunchtime.
  • Get some exercise before/after work regularly.
  • Keep a reflective journal.
  • Engage with a non-work hobby.
  • Turn off your email and work phone outside of work hours.
  • Make time for relaxation.
  • Make time to engage with positive friends and family.
  • Develop friendships that are supportive.
  • Go to the movies or do something else you enjoy.

This and That of the World

“The problem for a lot of people is that they don’t really know what they want. They have vague desire: to ‘do something creative’ or to earn more money or ‘to be free’, but they can’t really pin down what it is precisely that they want.”

The world only tells you are special when it needs you, not when you need it.

Why am I here? Why is this me?

Why don’t have this? why don’t have that ?

Why am I not doing something amazing?

Why am I not doing everything I want in life?

Sometimes people forget the things they actually do have. People tell you to be grateful you have a house, some people are homeless. Be grateful you have clean water, kids in the continent of Africa don’t have water. There will always be someone less fortunate, sadly as it is.

Be grateful you have this, be grateful you have that

Understand we are all grateful for the things we have, but you can also be sad, frustrated, mad at the world about how you living life. you can be whatever emotions arose….remember being a human being is hard