Friendship- Relationship

“Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It’s not something you learn in school. But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything.” — Muhammad Ali

As we get older, our friendship circle gets smaller and smaller. The ones who were meant to stay; stayed. I’ve come to realize that friendship takes the same amount of effort as a relationship. In a relationship you have to be loyal, faithful, and respectful and communicate effectively. You have to put in the work and the effort to keep the relationship going, the same effort should be put into friendship.

Every New Year’s Day people post about “leaving bad friends behind”. While it never occurs to them, they might be the problem. We all use the excuse that we are too busy to talk to our friends all the time, but ask yourself, would you go weeks and months without talking to your partner? A simple “Hey how are you?” Or “Hey, I see you?” Just check in to make sure they are good. Adulthood comes with a lot of responsibilities that take most of our time taking care of ourselves, but that’s not an excuse for being a shitty friend. We make the time for the things we want to make time for.

Friendship is a necessity, you need your friends for many things in life. Whether it’s 2 or 10 friends, you will need them at some point in your life, so start working on your friendship. Put in the effort and time so you don’t have to post every year about cutting people off. Ask yourself why those friendships didn’t work, question the importance of those friendships. Friendship is a two way street way, so be the kind of friend you want others to be for you. Friendship grows and changes with time, it is a devoted relationship and one of the greatest bonds in life.

Choose friends wisely
Communicate openly and honestly
Be yourself
Accept your friends for you they are
Respect their choices in life
Express your gratitude
Make time for your friends
Have fun together

-Time For yourself -Fall Back In Love With Your Own Company

You have to start spending more time with yourself, if you really want to learn to enjoy your own company. Everything takes time, so it will take time to work on the relationship that you have with yourself. Treat yourself with the same respect and admiration you would treat your family and friends with. Start by taking care of your mental health and well-being. I know that’s easier said than done but you need to start somewhere and somehow. Approach yourself with grace and gentleness.

Embrace what makes you, YOU, use your strength to your benefit, if you don’t know what your strengths are, figure them out, write them down. Don’t compare yourself to others, that puts you in a place of disadvantage.

It is more important to be true to yourself than to try to satisfy everyone else and get hurt along the way. Remember, you have the right to be yourself. Your time and energy is precious, so do something nice for yourself. Find what puts a smile on your face, sit in stillness, put your problems on pause even if it’s just for a day. You need to take the time to look after yourself.

-Be conscious of how you’re spending your time.
-Do one thing at a time
-Develop a regular sleep routine
-Develop friendships that are supportive
-Go for a walk at lunchtime
-Get some exercise before/after work regularly
-Keep a reflective journal
-Engage with a non-work hobby
-Turn off your email and work phone outside of work hours.
-Make time for relaxation
-Make time to engage with positive friends and family
-Go to the movies or do something else you enjoy.
-Get in the habit of doing small things every day.
-Focus on yourself rather than worrying about everybody else.
-Find the balance between being financially responsible, and treating yourself.
-Get better at staying in touch with the people you care about.
-Read a book on a topic you have very little knowledge of.
-Maintain a constant mindset of gratitude.

Alone- Together

“Remember: the time you feel lonely is the time you most need to be by yourself. Life’s cruelest irony.”

Loneliness: A tricky condition, because you can be alone in a room full of people

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The day of celebrating Valentine’s is over, well love should be celebrated every day. Did you celebrate Valentine’s Day with your partner or alone? Either or, I hoped you were in good spirit and made memorable memories. Yes, if you didn’t have a partner, you could have celebrated with your friends, family and even celebrate yourself. Love is a divine energy, an energy that you can portrait on to yourself. Love is about inner need and feeling happiness.

If you were alone on Valentine’s Day, there’s no need to feel lonely. Loneliness can happen anytime, anywhere, but don’t let it consume you. Don’t emotionally and socially isolate yourself and complain about being alone and feeling lonely. Being alone and being lonely are two different kinds of feelings. Stop having low opinions of yourself. Remember you are intelligent, unbroken, wanted, attractive, and worthy of every good thing that will happen to you. Nothing is wrong about needing solitude; from time to time, all of us need to spend some time on our own. I know it takes time to love yourself and it takes even more time to love someone. We all desire love in any form, whether it is with family, friends, or a romantic partner.

Know what loneliness means to you

Practice gratitude

Start accepting your need for connection

Don’t compare yourself to others

Take a walk without a destination

Be honest with yourself

List the things that you like about yourself.

Be spontaneous

Be present and experience what’s happening right now.

Stop worrying

Trust yourself

Do something that’s only for you

Express your feelings in a healthy, respectful way

Saint-Valentine

“All you need is love. But a little chocolate now and then doesn’t hurt”

Valentine’s Day is about romantic Love, gifts of flowers , chocolates and Valentine’s Day cards are sent with romantic messages to loved ones. Valentine’s Day is the day that people seem to express their emotions and declare their Love for one another. For today whether you are spending the day with a special someone or getting together with friends, make the best of it to express your Love.

Valentine’s Day is the perfect day to express your Love and commitment. It is a celebration for couples, romantic love and friendships. Send a message from the heart to anyone that means a lot to you. Whether it’s your partner or friends, use today to tell them about their intelligence, sense of humor, wit, beauty and positive presence in your life.

Since we are all busy with life, Valentine’s Day can also be a day to express your Love and give more attention to your closest friends more than you do every other day. If you are not celebrating Valentine’s Day with your partner, invite some of your friends over, open up that bottle of wine, watch a movie, play games or talk about old times. You can celebrate however you want. It can be alone time for you to enjoy your own company, to think about Love language, or how to want to receive and give Love

Many people celebrate Valentine’s Day by showing appreciation for the people they Love and adore. Some people take their loved ones for a romantic dinner at their favorite restaurant and give Valentines day cards, chocolates, jewelry or flowers, to their partners or friends on Valentine’s Day.

Here are some of the most romantic things and gifts that are for Love.

-Date Night Bucket List
-Reasons Why I Love You List
-Spend quality time together
-Make a Homemade Card
-Get a Couples Massage
-Play Old-School Music
-Have a Karaoke Night
-Make a Vision Board
-Cook Together
-Put Together a Heart Collage

-Romantic or Friendship Mini Heart Necklace
-Personalized bracelet with memories
-A set of a pair of his-and-hers mugs
-Love Scented Candle
-Valentine Spa Kit
-I Love you T-Shirt
-Valentine’s Day Wine Bottle
-Love/ Promise/Friendship Rings
-A bouquet of roses with money
-Love Tokens

“They invented hugs to let people know you love them without saying anything”.

Playful/ Romantic/ Enduring -Love

Playful: Full of fun; humorous attraction ; Flirtatious – Spend time together to laugh and have fun.

Romantic: Having an inclination for romance : responsive to the appeal of what is idealized, heroic, or adventurous. marked by expressions of love or affection.

Enduring : LASTING, DURABLE, PERMANENT- To endure important things in life.

Playful love can be puppy love, it is a child-like and flirtatious love commonly found in the beginning stages of a relationship like the honeymoon stage. The type of love we might experience in High school thinking it will last forever. An exciting kind of love that brings a lot of laughter and playful motives. Long lasting relationships can also be playful love if both partners want to be more open minded and more fun around each other.

Romantic love includes a lot of romantic affection like hugging, kissing, and being physically attracted to someone. It comes as a natural instinct for most people to show a lot of romantic gestures towards their partner. A lot of people think they are romantic, but what you find romantic may not be what your partner finds romantic. That’s why knowing your partner’s love language is important. Whether you’ve been together for 2 years or 10 years; you must keep the romance alive.

An enduring love is a love that matures over the years. It’s an everlasting love between a couple that chooses to put equal effort into their relationship. Commitment and dedication are key. You are with the person you want for indefinitely. Enduring love can put you in a difficult and painful situation. Not giving up when you know you should can take a toll on your feelings and emotions. When times get tough in a relationship, it can feel like an endurance test. To endure anything in life you must make sure it will be worth it, if not then you will be wasting your time.

“Anyone who’s been in love knows, love is complicated and capable of eliciting strong emotions, from elation to heartbreak.”

Affectionate / Familiar- Love

“The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we never give enough of is love.”

Affectionate: feeling or showing affection or warm regard : LOVING
affectionate friends – affectionate care – affectionate nickname

Familiar: frequently seen or experienced : easily recognized; having personal knowledge
Familiar friend- Familiar family- Familiar face
The kind of love existent between parents-children and vice versa.

For some people friendships are more important than family. You can absolutely find your soulmate in a friend. A friend that’s there for you when you need them the most. A friend that knows how to be a friend. People love calling someone their friends without knowing the meaning of it. Experiencing true friendship is an unforgettable feeling. Affectionate love is the kind of love that you feel for your friends and family . It is the kind of love that leaves you feeling close, safe, and cared for whether it’s between a child & parent or couples. Affection creates room for healthy personal relationships with friends and extended family. Think about how you show affection towards others and how you want to receive their affection as well.

You can show affection :

By making time
Remembering the little things
By asking a simple “ How are you?”
Anticipate their needs
A heartfelt hug
Know their love language

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”

A Type of Love

“To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.”

We all take and receive love differently. Love can be expressed many different ways. Knowing your love language is key, because your way of loving might not be the way they need to be loved. All types of love start with self love, the most important love. I’m sure you’ve heard that you can’t love someone till you’ve learned to love yourself. When we accept ourselves for who we are, we learn the ways of life. Try to make “me time” a habit, that way it becomes an everyday routine.

“You owe yourself the love that you so freely give others.” –

Develop a regular sleep routine
Go for a walk at lunchtime
Get some exercise before/after work regularly
Keep a reflective journal
Engage with a non-work hobby
Turn off your email and work phone outside of work hours
Make time for relaxation
Make time to engage with positive friends and family
Develop friendships that are supportive
Go to the movies or do something else you enjoy
Write down the things you are grateful for
Try do the things that puts a smile on your face

We all love differently and most problems from relationships come from not understanding how your partner needs to be loved. Learn about the different types of love so you can better understand your own relationships.

Self-love
Selfless Love
Affectionate Love
Familiar Love
Enduring Love
Playful love
Obsessive love

Stay tuned to learn more about these different types of Love

A Reminder

Positivity responds to positivity, and negativity responds with negativity. But then again in life, most things are easier said than done. You can’t change your state of mind if you keep thinking negatively. The mind controls the body in many different ways. Negativity and positivity are contagious. Living is hard, so remember to find a peaceful time to just be. Find a moment to fall in love with yourself, and that dream you keep dreaming of.

Today is a day to:

Start practicing positive self-talk
Start every day on a positive note
Re-evaluate the kind of company you keep around
Focus on the good things, no matter how small
Turn Failures into Lessons

The lowest points in our lives bring out the motivation in us to make a positive change.

Most people tend to underestimate what they can accomplish in a certain amount of time. When your life isn’t running efficiently, resources and time are wasted. As life goes on, one thing you must learn to do is doing things efficiently. Remember to focus on the things within your control.

Focus on more important tasks first
Take breaks
Set Precise Goals
Write down your accomplishments

Everything has its time when it comes to life. There’s a trend nowadays where society makes you believe that you always have to be on the run, always being proactive, and as they call it now, always hustling. People don’t make the time for anything unless it involves money, entertainment or drama that’s at the expense of someone else. Remember to explore new hobbies and have fun to destress. Start by prioritizing your health and let go of perfectionism. Everything has its time when it comes to life. Not everything you see is a reality, so take care of yourself before you wreck yourself.

Daydreaming is a way of escaping reality, but you have to face reality at some point. Let’s face it, we are all going through hardship. You can spend your whole life trying to escape reality, but sooner or later you have to face it.
Sometimes life gives us a moment to escape reality and find our peace of mind. A place where everything seems right with the world. A place of mind to just be having “Me” time is the perfect way to start. To forget all of your stressful problems, even if this just for a moment. Life can get overwhelming, and we are all dealing with some sort of issues. The flaws of living life can be too much to bear.

Be true to who you are
Live consciously each day
Know your inner self
Learn to love yourself
Do the things you love

THINK- Your Words

“Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate, and to humble.”

Most people don’t realize that words can go a long way. How powerful a positive speech can be. We tend to say whatever comes to mind sometimes, with no regard for others. The way you speak, your tone, and the way your words are said matters. Actually it matters more than you think because your words, if you choose them wisely, can either make or break someone.

Before you speak Think , ask yourself :

What is my intention?
Is it Necessary?
Is it Kind?

Your words have power, so speak words that are kind, positive, and encouraging. I think everyone needs a bit of words of encouragement from time to time. Words have a way of bringing people together and inspiring their lives. We can influence those around us by the words we choose to speak.

Be mindful when it comes to your words
One kind word can change someone’s entire day
Listen for the feelings behind the words
Think before you speak

Being Efficient

“If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you’ll never get it done.”

Most people tend to underestimate what they can accomplish in a certain amount of time. We tend to focus on too many things at once and because of that, stress comes in. I’ve come to notice most people spend time instead of using time. They like to plan ahead with no commitment. For example, people love saying “ New Year , New me” with no commitment to creating that new possibility.

There’s a trend to always be busy, to be hustling, and that’s how you lose focus. You are too focused on being busy instead of being productive. Productivity is lost when you take on more than you can accomplish. When your life isn’t running efficiently, resources and time are wasted. Efficiency becomes the key when you need to get things done. As life goes on, one thing you must learn to do is doing things efficiently. Remember to focus on the things within your control.

Focus on more important tasks first

Follow the 80/20 rule

Take breaks

Set Precise Goals

Have an Enterprising Mindset

Write down your accomplishments

Efficiency: the state or quality of being efficient, or able to accomplish something with the least waste of time and effort; competency in performance.

Everything has its time

Problems arise in that one has to find a balance between what people need from you and what you need for yourself.”

Everything has its time, when it comes to life. There’s a trend nowadays where society makes you believe that you always have to be on the run, always being proactive, and as they call it now, always hustling. People don’t make the time for anything unless it involves money, entertainment or drama that’s at the expense of someone else. It feels like the blind is leading the blind nowhere.

Did we forget our hobbies exist?

To be interested in something for joy

To have worry-free moments

Having a bit of fun for a moment

Are we only enjoying the materialistic things of life?

Making money is important, but it’s not the most important. What good is money if you are miserable with it and if you can’t even enjoy it? Let’s be honest, money can bring happiness to an extent, but that’s not what life is all about. Stop comparing yourself to others on social media….actually stop comparing yourself to whomever, period. In reality most of these people take care of themselves before showing their appearances. Not everything you see is a reality, so take care of yourself before you wreck yourself.

Prioritize your health
Let go of perfectionism
Don’t be afraid to unplug
Set boundaries
Set goals and priorities (and stick to them)

“ The problem is that technology has become an extra limb for some of us. It’s important to utilize this technology, but at the same time it’s important to know when to take a break from it.” – Alex Broches, Start Living

Today is a new day

“The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.”

Today is a day just like any other day.

Are you focusing on the present?

Is it a good day for you?

Have you been having any good days?

Have you put in the effort to have a good day?

Our mind; a magical thing that controls our emotions, mood, and state of being. It communicates with what it receives. Positivity responds to positivity, and negativity responds with negativity. But then again in life, most things are easier said than done. You can’t change your state of mind if you keep thinking negatively. The mind controls the body in many different ways. Negativity and positivity are contagious.

Today is a day to:

Start practicing positive self-talk
Start every day on a positive note
Re-evaluate the kind of company you keep around
Focus on the good things, no matter how small
Turn Failures into Lessons

The lowest points in our lives bring out the motivation in us to make a positive change.

Reality

Escapism— The tendency to seek distraction and relief from unpleasant realities, especially by seeking entertainment or engaging in fantasy.

Daydreaming is a way of escaping reality, but you have to face reality at some point. Let’s face it, we are all going through hardship. You can spend your whole life trying to escape reality, but sooner or later you have to face it. Some days it may feel like a burden to smile, but that smile can make a big difference. That smile can make your day, change your mood, and bring you to a better state of mind.

Sometimes life gives us a moment to escape reality and find our peace of mind. A place where everything seems right with the world. A place of mind to just be having “Me” time is the perfect way to start. To forget all of your stressful problems, even if this just for a moment. Life can get overwhelming, we are all dealing with some sort of issues. The flaws of living life can be too much to bear.

Remember you don’t have to be on the go all the time; you don’t have to follow trends on social media. It’s okay to go about life at your own pace. You don’t have to exhaust yourself trying to live a miserable life for show.

Be true to who you are
Live consciously each day
Know your inner self
Learn to love yourself
Do the things you love

“Every life is narrow. Our only escape is not to run away, but to learn to love the people we are and the world in which we find ourselves.”

A New Day

“By being the best you can be, the most skillful in your endeavor and by loving yourself, your life and what you do with it, you’ll happily begin every new day with a spring in your step.”

Well here we are leaving a year that felt so long, yet the days passed by in the blink of an eye. I don’t have the words to describe the kind of year we went through. It was too much for some of us to handle, we are all still going through tough times. Despite all the craziness this year brought, it’s time for a new outlook.

It’s a bittersweet feeling , we are happy it’s over but we don’t know what’s ahead. This is already chaos at its best. We can only hope for better days.

For some of us it was a year of unexpected growth. For finding ourselves when no one was watching, to explore a better version of ourselves, to just be, as we learn to navigate the new normal. To re-evaluate certain aspects of our lives and to pay more attention to the kind of life we’ve been living. More importantly to learn more about the kind of society we live in.

Living is hard, so from one person to another, I hope this year brings you

A peaceful time to just be
A moment to fall in love with yourself
That hug you are in need of
That moment of joy
That dream you keep dreaming of

It has been a challenging year for all us, better days are ahead. Let’s do better and be better.

New Year; New Changes-Outcomes-Dreams-Memories-Resolutions

Have a Happy New Year

“Begin now to do something that has long been a dream, something that makes you approach each new day as a journey to accomplish what you want and desire.”

The Thing About Responsibility

You have a responsibility in every decision you make in your life.

It’s easy to make excuses for yourself and deny opportunities for growth and learn more about life as it goes on.

At some point we all have to grow up; it’s an inevitable part of life as well. There is always an opportunity to learn more, to expand your knowledge on what goes on in the world.

Whether you choose good or bad, the decisions is your responsibility. This life is what you make it

Therefore in this one life you have to

Get serious about your Life

Get serious about your Future

Get serious about your Goals

Get serious about your Naturalness

Get serious about Yourself

“May you live every day of your life.”
― Jonathan Swift