Tell me something about yourself

The never ending question of tell me something about yourself. There is no right or wrong answer, but you have to prepare for it. Even the people asking you, have trouble answering it. So let’s take a look at how life plays with us.

Job Interview: You know they’re not looking for fun facts about yourself, but you hope you’re saying the right things. Therefore you have to start with your best achievement from a recent role, and what you can do for them at their company. But what do they want?

I began my career in retail management, but a few years ago, I was drawn to the Human Resources, people management. I’ve always been skilled at bringing people together and working towards common goals. My experience successfully leading and managing teams led me to consider HR, and I’ve been building a career in Business management for the last four years.” 

Date: You meet someone who catches your eyes and start a conversation. Conversation between the two of you seems to be going well enough, then you hear “Tell me about yourself.” You have to be careful, because you don’t want to sound like you are bragging. So go ahead and tell them what your hobbies are and what you do on your spare time.

The somewhat truth:  Oh the personal shit we all go through with life. What you are currently struggling with, and how you are progressing in life. More than half of the world is struggling in some ways. So how honest can you actually be without petrifying others, even though they have problems also. Nobody wants to talk about their life struggles.

There are a million answers, because it’s a questions that leaves us bamboozled. Before you answer, you have to ask yourself, “How do I want to expose myself to the outside world”?

Relationships/Connections: Personal & Professional

“Love, friendship, and networking – these are all critical connections and the foundation of a healthy, happy life”.

During College I learned the importance of having a connection and what it can do. Whether if it’s a personal or a professional connections, it matters more than I thought. I realized that we get so entwine with our lives that we forget or unaware of others contributing to it. Nothing should ever be taken for granted, but it happens anyway. The importance of connections is overlooked, a simple “Hey how are you? Or Hey how’s the new job?” goes a long way. I find that most of us are Self-contained, which cause a rift in creating a relationship in the first place. We don’t realize that we are indebted to so many people. Always remember to show and hold gratitude for the ones who makes time to connect with you.

To the person who checks on you

To the person who gave you, your first job

To the person who cares about your well being

To the person who makes time for you

“Real relationships are the product of time spent, which is why so many of us have so few of them.” 

Inspiration: To find your better self

“Accept yourself, love yourself, and keep moving forward. If you want to fly, you have to give up what weighs you down.” 

Exactly what does it mean to find your better self, and where does one begin to do so. We are all somehow seems to be struggling with something in life. It’s quite funny but not really, we all assume someone is struggling with something because of today’s society, it seems to be inevitable. Whether it’s something big or small, it becomes part of life, how we let our struggles somewhat outline us.

How do you use your mind to nurture yourself?

What helps or give you the strength to be your better self?

What inspires you to do better?

In my life there are many people and things that have been a huge influence on me. Because of those influences I remind myself to be worthy. Your mind can overcome anything, you can’t live in the fear of what if. Whatever inspire you in this crazy life, take advantage of it and keep a positive perspective.

 “Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.” 

Appearances: First Impression

“We are constantly reminded about how short life is. Please try to leave your best positive impression on everyone that you meet.” 

Never forget that you only have one opportunity to make a first impression . Everything you do is a representation of yourself, it shows your character. We all love to say “I don’t care what people think about me” believe or not, to an extent you do. First Impression matters, for example when you go to a job interview, you dress professionally and prepare yourself for it. Your words and action shows the world your character. We all judge others based on appearance, because it’s the first thing we notice about a person. Granted we all have off days when grumpiness takes over, but you must still be mindful of your surroundings. Always showcase the best version of yourself, it’s an opportunity to show who you are. Even when nobody is watching, do things to the best of your ability. Remembers action speaks volume, how you care for yourself should always matter to you.

“Our first impressions are generated by our experiences and our environment, which means that we can change our first impressions . . . by changing the experiences that comprise those impressions.” 

Never Ending Child Support= Student Loans

“College students are the type of people society needs to do things such as start businesses, buy homes and cars, invent things and make babies. But, if people are burdened with debt, they are less likely to make those kinds of decisions. Unburden them and the economy will receive the boost it needs to thrive”.

Yes, I know I call my student loans child support and my kid name is Salli Mae. Every student in America has a relationship with her, sadly. After college, I was burdened with student loans to repay, no financial cushion, so working two jobs seems ideal. Everyone knows college students are broke, but yet somehow we are expected to start paying student loans 6 months after we graduate, not after we find a job. Funny, isn’t it? You will magically find your dream job and have money, 6 months after you graduate. I guess this is what my teacher meant by “The real world start after you graduate”. I’m guessing the real world is about debt, low paying jobs, or not being able to find a job after graduation. Most of us are struggling to find jobs in our career field and barely have an understanding of the term of the loans and our options if we are unable to repay.

College graduates are not getting the results that they are assured when they pay their tuition. Unfortunately you may not find a well-paying job and be well-off after you graduate. Reality is most of us realize at some point we have to start making major life decisions. As the years goes by I realize people in my age group are putting off having children, getting married and buying a house. Just like you, I am working hard to pay off my student loans. Prepare and motivate yourself, knowing this is unavoidable.

“Whether we are working to pay off student loans, credit card debt, paying for elder or childcare, or even trying to save for retirement, the idea of the American dream still remains just that – a dream”.

Words: Actions speak louder than words….To what extent?

“Every little word we say to someone, affects them and their actions. And in turn, that someone will affect another; and so forth and so forth”

We all know that the power of positive speech can break barriers and change lives, so what do you think happen with the power of negative speech. Actions do speak louder than words, but that doesn’t apply to everything in life. When you want to see a change of behavior in someone you tell them “Actions speak louder than words. Because they need to show you they can change rather than tell you they will change.

“Why say, “I LOVE YOU.” when actions speak louder than words?
Because…
It matters, that’s why.” 

Words brings out a change in people lives. Others can be influenced by the words you choose to speak. There is a power within positive and negative speech, positivity goes a long way, so does negativity.  Most of us really don’t think before we speak, so remind yourself to do so, because your words whether positive or negative affects the people around you.

“One of the powerful tools that human beings possess is their words. It is said that words are mightier than a sword and that’s true since words are capable of dictating your feelings, behaviors, beliefs and your actions”.

Friday; After Work

“People wait all week for Friday, all year for summer, all life for happiness”.

Are you eager to leave work for the weekend to enjoy yourself? It’s a new day, new month; how about trying something different, something innovative. One of the best feelings of leaving work, is knowing you can sleep in the next day.  Trust me, for someone who works two jobs, I know. I barely have time to plan anything for the weekend.  Even so I still make time to try different things. We have a tendency to become lazy once we get trapped on the work routine of doing the same thing every day.

When was the last time you’ve gone outside of your comfort zone?

Why don’t you do the things you know you should be doing?

Motivate yourself to be open, to do more. Make time to enjoy yourself, paying bills isn’t all that life is about, seriously. Bringing your stress home is a definite NO, it causes more stress and unhappiness for you. Remember the weekend will end eventually, so make the best of the free time you have after work.

Have a good weekend!

“FRIDAY. Make each day of the week like Friday and your life will take on new enthusiasm”.


Daily Discipline: Life Routine

“Work while you work, play while you play – this is a basic rule of repressive self-discipline.”

Before
·         Wake up at 7:30 a.m
·         Shower
·         Breakfast- Coffee & Bagel
·         Drive to work- Do I have to go ?

After
·         Wake up at 7:00 a.m
·         Drink Water
·         Stretch
·         Shower
·         Make my bed
·         Eat a good breakfast
·         Drive to work
·         Be grateful

“The only discipline that lasts is self-discipline.”

Most of us work a 9 to 5 job, it’s a repetitive life schedule with a hate and love relationship. On one hand you are happy to have a job, on the other you do the same thing every day. We all have bills to pay, so working is inevitable, but your mood is not. It’s important to work where you love, but most of us don’t have that luxury of having our dream jobs. Even so , you have to make the best of your day.

Are you comfortable doing the same thing every day for the rest of your life?

Which habits that needs to be change?

How do you discipline yourself to do better and be better?

Practicing restraint can go a long way in life. If you are always in a bad mood or complains a lot, it becomes tiresome and annoying for the people around you, even for yourself. No one wants a miserable person around them, remember that. They will eventually deaden your unpleasant mood. Self-discipline is important, especially in today’s society.

I’d love to hear about your routine, too. Feel free to share your morning here in the comments.

Unwanted task: Adulting

“Relax. You will become an adult. You will figure out your career. You will find someone who loves you. You have a whole lifetime; time takes time. The only way to fail at life is to abstain.”

I don’t know who told us to grow up so quick. I couldn’t wait to turn 18 years old so I can say “I’m grown now, don’t tell me what to do”. I was excited to start working and make money. Quickly after, I realize the responsibilities that comes with having money and thinking you are grown. Adults have a lot of responsibilities that never cross my mind. I just wanted to say “I am grown now”, and I didn’t actually want to grow up, Funny as it sounds.  The start of College, being on Campus and having to take care of myself. At first I was happy to have freedom, no parents telling me what to do. Then it hits me, I have to feed myself, do my laundry and manage my money and school work. No lies I was struggling, any college students that was acting they had their shit together was just putting on an act. The things we all had in common, we were tired and broke, and can barely afford to take care of ourselves.

By the time I became a senior, I had the responsibilities thing down, well I was still a broke college student, but I managed to take care of myself pretty well. Every school had that teacher that put fears in you about the real world “this is not going to be acceptable in the real world” …..Whatever that means. Sometimes I would take my teacher serious, other times I liked being a smart ass by asking him “so how’s adult life for you, is it working out the way you want” He would laugh knowing I was joking. I’m sure he notices none of us had a clue what adulthood is. There’s certain level to being adult.

What makes you an adult?

Is it just taking care of yourself and your responsibilities?

Is it maturity?  Is it how we care for others or about the world?

So here I am, in my mid twenties, still trying to figure out what “Adulthood” is. There’s a lot of pressure after graduating, have to find a job, a place to live, and the most important of them all school loans to pay back.  Honestly, I don’t know if there’s an exact way to define to being an adult.  We are all just trying to live life to the best we can. At some point in our lives we all graduate from childhood into adulthood.

“Being silly is still allowed, not excluded by adulthood. What’s excluded by adulthood is thoughtlessness, so be thoughtful and silly” 

Good Practitioner

“While the journey seems long and hard at the beginning with perseverance and dedication the rewards at the end last a lifetime.”

As life goes on ,you learn the best teacher of life is experience and the progress of the journey we all go through. You have to want to change for any kind of transition to occur. Asking yourself, Can I do it? Am I good enough? Where do I begin? Won’t get you anywhere till you act. We all need guidance and have problems we want to get over whether in our personal or professional lives.

You must have confidence in your abilities.

Remember you have the power, the strength inside you.  There is nothing you cannot overcome.

You are capable of achieving the goals you set for yourself.

If you find yourself having the opportunity to do more good in one day, take advantage of it. Most of the time we are so busy and entwine in our lives that we forget about everything else around us. Despite all the difficulty of life and roadblocks to just be, you must make it worth it. Work on yourself for as long as you need. It takes human understanding, reason and courage to be a good practitioner.

“You are a good practitioner” Tell yourself that over and over till you finally understand what it means to you.

Believe in yourself, you can do anything

“Anything worth doing good takes a little chaos.”

Flaws & All

“We all have our imperfections. But I’m human, and you know, it’s important to concentrate on other qualities besides outer beauty”.

The first thing people notice about you is your appearance. Most people will never admit it, but let’s be honest, you do care how others sees you. It’s easy to want to be flawless and perfect, but that’s literally impossible. Remember you will never be able to please every single person. A lot of us are still struggling with self-esteem and what it means to find self-love and be satisfied with that.

Beauty is only skin deep & Take me as I am– What does that mean to you?

What do you think it means when people say that beauty comes from the inside?

There are other ways of being “beautiful” besides being visually beautiful. Don’t compare yourself to others, who you think are better than you. From far it can look effortless, that we can be flawless and perfect. The more imperfections you have, the more you can look past superficial qualities.

“People like to pick at your imperfections, and that can be very hard on you as a person. I think, a lot of times, people forget that we’re human beings and some of us are fighting self-esteem issues already”.

The Quest for Identity

“You will always be followed by the shadow of your heritage and of your ancestry”

Many things and obstacles in life shape our identities. We all have an idea about what we represent to others and society. The definition of identity has many meaning. The issues of identity are difficult to understand. Our identity is our understanding of where we came from, our beliefs, and what form us to make us who we are. It is a state of mind that makes us realize our characters traits to help us understand who we are.

Your identity is basically who you are and what you define yourself as being. A lot of us are still struggling to understand what identity is and what it means to have an identity. Where you come from can teaches you many things about life. Along the way we must understand more about the consequences of our actions and life.

What does it mean to have honored and respect?

What kind of person will you be or desire to be?  

“We don’t need bigger cars or fancier clothes. We need self-respect, identity, community, love, variety, beauty, challenge and a purpose in living that is greater than material accumulation.”

Everyday people make decisions that will surely affect their future without thinking first about the immediate consequences that can drag along. This is the main issue of so many people, they act without thinking first. It should be the other way around; to think first before act. In everything we are doing, we need to think first about the risks and benefits that can impact our lives so that we make better decisions.  It is very important to stay true to yourself.

One of these days

Happy July, May this month bring you joy!

“Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”    

Today is one of those days, where getting out of bed seems impossible. I don’t feel like answering to adulthood calling. We all have our moments, and feels down sometimes. It’s inevitable, we can’t be happy all the time. I see it as life way of telling us to calm down, everyday can’t be our day. Nonetheless, I still have to cheer myself up and get ready for work. That’s the thing about life, times goes on, as I am sitting here getting myself together. It’s okay to wake up in a sour mood and be however you want to be, but try your best to not be like that throughout your day.  Just a reminder your mood also affects those around you. Learn to make the best of what you have.  Drink coffee or tea and put on your best smile to have a good day.

“If you plan on being anything less than you are capable of being, you will probably be unhappy all the days of your life.”

Monday’s Playlist:

  • Set It All Free- Scarlett Johansson
  • Shape of You- Ed Sheeran
  • Taki Taki (feat. Selena Gomez, Ozuna & Cardi B)
  • Treat You Better- Shawn Mendes
  • Unholy War- Jacob Banks

Starting First

Starting first does not mean you will always come out ahead, remember, you can give it your all and still lose. You never know the outcomes, that’s just life honestly. Everyone is at a different level in terms of growth. Don’t underestimate the greatness that will come bursting forth once you reach your full potential.

Often in life we witness others doing amazing things with their life, and it makes us doubt ourselves by comparing. 

Am I good enough?

 What am I doing wrong?

Why can’t I be this lucky?

When will I achieve this kind of success?

 Where do I even start?

Do not live your life in fear, learn to change your thought process. Remember looks can be deceiving, never judged someone based on what you solely sees. We all have our own struggles to deal with. When it’s your turn to leave everyone in Amazement, it will happen. Give yourself an opportunity to rise up and work hard to achieve your goals. You might surprise yourself, fill your mind with positive thoughts and go for it.

Be realistic

Commit to yourself

Understand Why your Goal Is Important to achieve

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The world allows many people to express themselves in many different ways and for exploration of identity.  We are all free to take risks and explore all aspects of our identity. Every person, or group of people, has an identity and a culture, and we are all getting judged because of it. Gender, identity and culture are carried out in all aspects of life. Space is more than a container, because we are all different in our own way, and express our self freely even with the stereotypes of the world.  Every person develops their identity through life experience as we start to interact with different group within the same environment.  Society has imposed certain laws, though unwritten, that everyone must follow. These rules are essentially what govern our behaviors, our perceptions of other groups, and ultimately our identity.

We all try our best to see past cultural, religious and economic barriers to treat the human being as a whole person. So why is it so difficult to see the importance and value in every individual and understand the real nature of goodness? Why can’t we demonstrate compassion, empathy and respect and cultural sensitivity to others different from us?

Your positive energy and caring nature can be inspiring to those around you. Your behaviors does indeed have an emotional impact on the people around you, whether you believe it or not.  To build long lasting respectful relationship you must show unlimited love and compassion to everyone. Your strength of character, compassion, integrity does indeed determine the kind of person you choose to be. I get it we all don’t have a warm and caring nature, but that’s not an excuse to be a shitty human being.

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