Comfort- Hugging

“The ache for home lives in all of us. The safe place where we can go as we are and not be questioned.”
― Maya Angelou

A hug, it’s something that is very comforting, a simple gesture that can stop you from falling apart. Sometimes it is the only medicine we need to make it through a tough day. I noticed most people only hugs their significant others, that’s good, but there’s also your family members who might needs you to hug them. We should hold a grateful heart toward the people who are there for us when we need them the most. We don’t always have to use words for comfort, sometimes a hug is all that is needed.

“Hugging: the truest form of giving and receiving.”

Inspiration: To find your better self

“Accept yourself, love yourself, and keep moving forward. If you want to fly, you have to give up what weighs you down.” 

Exactly what does it mean to find your better self, and where does one begin to do so. We are all somehow seems to be struggling with something in life. It’s quite funny but not really, we all assume someone is struggling with something because of today’s society, it seems to be inevitable. Whether it’s something big or small, it becomes part of life, how we let our struggles somewhat outline us.

How do you use your mind to nurture yourself?

What helps or give you the strength to be your better self?

What inspires you to do better?

In my life there are many people and things that have been a huge influence on me. Because of those influences I remind myself to be worthy. Your mind can overcome anything, you can’t live in the fear of what if. Whatever inspire you in this crazy life, take advantage of it and keep a positive perspective.

 “Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.” 

Words: Actions speak louder than words….To what extent?

“Every little word we say to someone, affects them and their actions. And in turn, that someone will affect another; and so forth and so forth”

We all know that the power of positive speech can break barriers and change lives, so what do you think happen with the power of negative speech. Actions do speak louder than words, but that doesn’t apply to everything in life. When you want to see a change of behavior in someone you tell them “Actions speak louder than words. Because they need to show you they can change rather than tell you they will change.

“Why say, “I LOVE YOU.” when actions speak louder than words?
Because…
It matters, that’s why.” 

Words brings out a change in people lives. Others can be influenced by the words you choose to speak. There is a power within positive and negative speech, positivity goes a long way, so does negativity.  Most of us really don’t think before we speak, so remind yourself to do so, because your words whether positive or negative affects the people around you.

“One of the powerful tools that human beings possess is their words. It is said that words are mightier than a sword and that’s true since words are capable of dictating your feelings, behaviors, beliefs and your actions”.

Daily Discipline: Life Routine

“Work while you work, play while you play – this is a basic rule of repressive self-discipline.”

Before
·         Wake up at 7:30 a.m
·         Shower
·         Breakfast- Coffee & Bagel
·         Drive to work- Do I have to go ?

After
·         Wake up at 7:00 a.m
·         Drink Water
·         Stretch
·         Shower
·         Make my bed
·         Eat a good breakfast
·         Drive to work
·         Be grateful

“The only discipline that lasts is self-discipline.”

Most of us work a 9 to 5 job, it’s a repetitive life schedule with a hate and love relationship. On one hand you are happy to have a job, on the other you do the same thing every day. We all have bills to pay, so working is inevitable, but your mood is not. It’s important to work where you love, but most of us don’t have that luxury of having our dream jobs. Even so , you have to make the best of your day.

Are you comfortable doing the same thing every day for the rest of your life?

Which habits that needs to be change?

How do you discipline yourself to do better and be better?

Practicing restraint can go a long way in life. If you are always in a bad mood or complains a lot, it becomes tiresome and annoying for the people around you, even for yourself. No one wants a miserable person around them, remember that. They will eventually deaden your unpleasant mood. Self-discipline is important, especially in today’s society.

I’d love to hear about your routine, too. Feel free to share your morning here in the comments.

Unwanted task: Adulting

“Relax. You will become an adult. You will figure out your career. You will find someone who loves you. You have a whole lifetime; time takes time. The only way to fail at life is to abstain.”

I don’t know who told us to grow up so quick. I couldn’t wait to turn 18 years old so I can say “I’m grown now, don’t tell me what to do”. I was excited to start working and make money. Quickly after, I realize the responsibilities that comes with having money and thinking you are grown. Adults have a lot of responsibilities that never cross my mind. I just wanted to say “I am grown now”, and I didn’t actually want to grow up, Funny as it sounds.  The start of College, being on Campus and having to take care of myself. At first I was happy to have freedom, no parents telling me what to do. Then it hits me, I have to feed myself, do my laundry and manage my money and school work. No lies I was struggling, any college students that was acting they had their shit together was just putting on an act. The things we all had in common, we were tired and broke, and can barely afford to take care of ourselves.

By the time I became a senior, I had the responsibilities thing down, well I was still a broke college student, but I managed to take care of myself pretty well. Every school had that teacher that put fears in you about the real world “this is not going to be acceptable in the real world” …..Whatever that means. Sometimes I would take my teacher serious, other times I liked being a smart ass by asking him “so how’s adult life for you, is it working out the way you want” He would laugh knowing I was joking. I’m sure he notices none of us had a clue what adulthood is. There’s certain level to being adult.

What makes you an adult?

Is it just taking care of yourself and your responsibilities?

Is it maturity?  Is it how we care for others or about the world?

So here I am, in my mid twenties, still trying to figure out what “Adulthood” is. There’s a lot of pressure after graduating, have to find a job, a place to live, and the most important of them all school loans to pay back.  Honestly, I don’t know if there’s an exact way to define to being an adult.  We are all just trying to live life to the best we can. At some point in our lives we all graduate from childhood into adulthood.

“Being silly is still allowed, not excluded by adulthood. What’s excluded by adulthood is thoughtlessness, so be thoughtful and silly” 

Good Practitioner

“While the journey seems long and hard at the beginning with perseverance and dedication the rewards at the end last a lifetime.”

As life goes on ,you learn the best teacher of life is experience and the progress of the journey we all go through. You have to want to change for any kind of transition to occur. Asking yourself, Can I do it? Am I good enough? Where do I begin? Won’t get you anywhere till you act. We all need guidance and have problems we want to get over whether in our personal or professional lives.

You must have confidence in your abilities.

Remember you have the power, the strength inside you.  There is nothing you cannot overcome.

You are capable of achieving the goals you set for yourself.

If you find yourself having the opportunity to do more good in one day, take advantage of it. Most of the time we are so busy and entwine in our lives that we forget about everything else around us. Despite all the difficulty of life and roadblocks to just be, you must make it worth it. Work on yourself for as long as you need. It takes human understanding, reason and courage to be a good practitioner.

“You are a good practitioner” Tell yourself that over and over till you finally understand what it means to you.

Believe in yourself, you can do anything

“Anything worth doing good takes a little chaos.”

Flaws & All

“We all have our imperfections. But I’m human, and you know, it’s important to concentrate on other qualities besides outer beauty”.

The first thing people notice about you is your appearance. Most people will never admit it, but let’s be honest, you do care how others sees you. It’s easy to want to be flawless and perfect, but that’s literally impossible. Remember you will never be able to please every single person. A lot of us are still struggling with self-esteem and what it means to find self-love and be satisfied with that.

Beauty is only skin deep & Take me as I am– What does that mean to you?

What do you think it means when people say that beauty comes from the inside?

There are other ways of being “beautiful” besides being visually beautiful. Don’t compare yourself to others, who you think are better than you. From far it can look effortless, that we can be flawless and perfect. The more imperfections you have, the more you can look past superficial qualities.

“People like to pick at your imperfections, and that can be very hard on you as a person. I think, a lot of times, people forget that we’re human beings and some of us are fighting self-esteem issues already”.

People-Las personas -인민

The world allows many people to express themselves in many different ways and for exploration of identity.  We are all free to take risks and explore all aspects of our identity. Every person, or group of people, has an identity and a culture, and we are all getting judged because of it. Gender, identity and culture are carried out in all aspects of life. Space is more than a container, because we are all different in our own way, and express our self freely even with the stereotypes of the world.  Every person develops their identity through life experience as we start to interact with different group within the same environment.  Society has imposed certain laws, though unwritten, that everyone must follow. These rules are essentially what govern our behaviors, our perceptions of other groups, and ultimately our identity.

We all try our best to see past cultural, religious and economic barriers to treat the human being as a whole person. So why is it so difficult to see the importance and value in every individual and understand the real nature of goodness? Why can’t we demonstrate compassion, empathy and respect and cultural sensitivity to others different from us?

Your positive energy and caring nature can be inspiring to those around you. Your behaviors does indeed have an emotional impact on the people around you, whether you believe it or not.  To build long lasting respectful relationship you must show unlimited love and compassion to everyone. Your strength of character, compassion, integrity does indeed determine the kind of person you choose to be. I get it we all don’t have a warm and caring nature, but that’s not an excuse to be a shitty human being.

Smile- The Power of a Smile

Truth is , living in this world can be hard sometimes. We sometimes can’t help being in a rotten mood, whether it’s stress or just having a bad day. A little act of kindness can go a long way, a smile convey warmth , comfort and friendliness. Display your smile proudly and remember that every smile is an act of love and kindness, it always makes a difference to someone, somehow.