For The Love Around

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”― Lao Tzu

For the love of love, love yourself, love the people around you and be loved. We seem to love the idea of love, rather than knowing what love is. There’s a lot of different love to experience in this world. Everyone gives and receives love differently.  Some of us are just better at giving love and experiencing the different stages of love. Remember to look for and choose the love that makes you feel alive and excited about life.   

Unconditional Love: The love we all want to receive, because humans are inherently selfish.

Romantic Love: The intimate love, the need to connect with the one you have feelings for.

Familiar Love:  The love from friends and family members who are there for us through thick and thin.

Self-love: Ahhh this love is, the most important love of them all, you cannot freely love others , if you don’t love yourself first. Be confident in loving everything about you.

“ Don’t be selfish with love, experience the joy that it has to offer” 

When It Comes To Making Time

“Time is a created thing. To say ‘I don’t have time,’ is like saying, ‘I don’t want to.”

We make time for the things we want to make time for. That may be true, but some of us are really busy and struggling to make time for the people around us. As we enter the so called adulthood, there’s many things to think about and changing some of our habits. It’s hard balancing a professional and social life. Nonetheless, complaining about life doesn’t get us anywhere.

What are you making time for 

What do you value the most

How important is your time

We make ourselves believe we have all the time in the world. Which comes the question “ How much time do we really have”? Adulthood makes us question so many things about life. 

Do we have enough time to achieve our goals?

When will our dreams come true?

How long will it take to make it in life? (Whatever that means)

Time is all that you have & don’t have, only you control what you use yours for. 

Let’s Hangout: Building Relationship

Let’s Hangout; Something to Change

Everyone is so busy living their lives that we’re forgetting to build relationships that will last. Relationship with people that will be there for us at the lowest and highest point of our lives. Me time is important , so is building relationships with those around us. Me time helps you with a healthy lifestyle, a better you, and a peaceful day. Building relationships helps with an understanding of human life, what it means to rely on someone, vice versa and just being there for someone who might need you.

Let’s hangout, but when I have time. Well we need to start making time, there are things in life that are more enjoyable by experiencing it with family and friends. Let’s start making time for those around us; make the effort to mind the people that cares for us. A phone call, a text of “ How are you “. Form a connection that means something, a connection that benefits the relationships. Let’s make time to hangout and get to know each other. Take time to appreciate the relationships that make a difference in your life.

Come To Your Senses

“By changing nothing, nothing changes.”

Tell me something, are you OK

Is it so hard, are you still struggling 

Do you still don’t know what to do 

Are you trying to figure stuff out 

Exactly how long do you need 

Exactly what kind of change will you make 

Exactly how will you change 

Is there a need for change 

Think about it……….. again……… think about it

I can tell you to change your life many times, but if you just wanna sit there and complain and complain nothing is going to happen .you are just going to be someone who complains about life. I don’t know if that’s a good thing, it’s definitely not a good thing. nobody wants to be around someone who complains all the time. Sometimes, actions speak louder than words.  you need to start as of now. You need to want to change

To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often.

“I believe that no matter what situation in life you find yourself, there is room for you to take control of little things, which ultimately adds up to big things.”

Tell me something, how are you feeling about yourself. Everyone seems to be on the grind with new ventures and new ideas planned out for the new year. Its time for you to push yourself and take the first step of implementing your ideas.

Embrace what makes you, YOU, use your strength to your benefit, if you don’t know what your strengths are, figure them out, write them down. Don’t compare yourself to others, that puts you in a place of disadvantage. 

Familiarities and comfort are sometimes the weaknesses you might fail to identify. Don’t get too comfortable and become enervated. It takes time to reverse the effects of being too comfortable and personality traits that hold you back. Get to work, start planning and organizing your ideas.

“Moving forward requires that one first take a step.”

  • Start Small
  • Write down a list of your ideas
  • Don’t let fear stop you
  • Tackle procrastination head-on
  • Reward yourself
  • Visualize yourself succeeding
  • Chose success. 

To New Experiences & New Memories

“You’ll never get bored when you try something new. There’s really no limit to what you can do.” 

It’s a brand new day and new year to try something different. The term “ New Year, New Me” may seem overrated, but there can be a new you,  if you work to find a better version of yourself. In the word of Steve Harvey “You are never too old to reinvent yourself.” so here’s to new experiences, new goals to achieve, new adventures, and new memories. 

Happy New Year; May 2020 bring you more happiness, more of everything you are looking forward to. 

“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.”C.S. Lewis

In the name of Self Care & Self-Love

“As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.” —Maya Angelou

A lot of us forget to put ourselves first in life, so how are you doing in the self-care department? Everyone should know the term self -care or self-love.

  • The practices of taking action to preserve or improve one’s own health.
  • The practices of taking an active role in protecting one’s own well-being and happiness, in particular during periods of stress.
    “expressing oneself is an essential form of self-care”

It is more important to be true to yourself than to try to satisfy everyone else and get hurt along the way, remember you have the right to be yourself. Your time and energy are precious, so do something nice for yourself. Find what puts a smile on your face, sit in stillness, put your problems on pause even if its just a for a day. you need to take the time to look after yourself.

A round of applause for everyone who is trying hard to make it on their own.

“You owe yourself the love that you so freely give others.” – 

  • Develop a regular sleep routine.
  • Go for a walk at lunchtime.
  • Get some exercise before/after work regularly.
  • Keep a reflective journal.
  • Engage with a non-work hobby.
  • Turn off your email and work phone outside of work hours.
  • Make time for relaxation.
  • Make time to engage with positive friends and family.
  • Develop friendships that are supportive.
  • Go to the movies or do something else you enjoy.

This and That of the World

“The problem for a lot of people is that they don’t really know what they want. They have vague desire: to ‘do something creative’ or to earn more money or ‘to be free’, but they can’t really pin down what it is precisely that they want.”

The world only tells you are special when it needs you, not when you need it.

Why am I here? Why is this me?

Why don’t have this? why don’t have that ?

Why am I not doing something amazing?

Why am I not doing everything I want in life?

Sometimes people forget the things they actually do have. People tell you to be grateful you have a house, some people are homeless. Be grateful you have clean water, kids in the continent of Africa don’t have water. There will always be someone less fortunate, sadly as it is.

Be grateful you have this, be grateful you have that

Understand we are all grateful for the things we have, but you can also be sad, frustrated, mad at the world about how you living life. you can be whatever emotions arose….remember being a human being is hard

Comfort- Hugging

“The ache for home lives in all of us. The safe place where we can go as we are and not be questioned.”
― Maya Angelou

A hug, it’s something that is very comforting, a simple gesture that can stop you from falling apart. Sometimes it is the only medicine we need to make it through a tough day. I noticed most people only hugs their significant others, that’s good, but there’s also your family members who might needs you to hug them. We should hold a grateful heart toward the people who are there for us when we need them the most. We don’t always have to use words for comfort, sometimes a hug is all that is needed.

“Hugging: the truest form of giving and receiving.”

Inspiration: To find your better self

“Accept yourself, love yourself, and keep moving forward. If you want to fly, you have to give up what weighs you down.” 

Exactly what does it mean to find your better self, and where does one begin to do so. We are all somehow seems to be struggling with something in life. It’s quite funny but not really, we all assume someone is struggling with something because of today’s society, it seems to be inevitable. Whether it’s something big or small, it becomes part of life, how we let our struggles somewhat outline us.

How do you use your mind to nurture yourself?

What helps or give you the strength to be your better self?

What inspires you to do better?

In my life there are many people and things that have been a huge influence on me. Because of those influences I remind myself to be worthy. Your mind can overcome anything, you can’t live in the fear of what if. Whatever inspire you in this crazy life, take advantage of it and keep a positive perspective.

 “Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.” 

Words: Actions speak louder than words….To what extent?

“Every little word we say to someone, affects them and their actions. And in turn, that someone will affect another; and so forth and so forth”

We all know that the power of positive speech can break barriers and change lives, so what do you think happen with the power of negative speech. Actions do speak louder than words, but that doesn’t apply to everything in life. When you want to see a change of behavior in someone you tell them “Actions speak louder than words. Because they need to show you they can change rather than tell you they will change.

“Why say, “I LOVE YOU.” when actions speak louder than words?
Because…
It matters, that’s why.” 

Words brings out a change in people lives. Others can be influenced by the words you choose to speak. There is a power within positive and negative speech, positivity goes a long way, so does negativity.  Most of us really don’t think before we speak, so remind yourself to do so, because your words whether positive or negative affects the people around you.

“One of the powerful tools that human beings possess is their words. It is said that words are mightier than a sword and that’s true since words are capable of dictating your feelings, behaviors, beliefs and your actions”.

Daily Discipline: Life Routine

“Work while you work, play while you play – this is a basic rule of repressive self-discipline.”

Before
·         Wake up at 7:30 a.m
·         Shower
·         Breakfast- Coffee & Bagel
·         Drive to work- Do I have to go ?

After
·         Wake up at 7:00 a.m
·         Drink Water
·         Stretch
·         Shower
·         Make my bed
·         Eat a good breakfast
·         Drive to work
·         Be grateful

“The only discipline that lasts is self-discipline.”

Most of us work a 9 to 5 job, it’s a repetitive life schedule with a hate and love relationship. On one hand you are happy to have a job, on the other you do the same thing every day. We all have bills to pay, so working is inevitable, but your mood is not. It’s important to work where you love, but most of us don’t have that luxury of having our dream jobs. Even so , you have to make the best of your day.

Are you comfortable doing the same thing every day for the rest of your life?

Which habits that needs to be change?

How do you discipline yourself to do better and be better?

Practicing restraint can go a long way in life. If you are always in a bad mood or complains a lot, it becomes tiresome and annoying for the people around you, even for yourself. No one wants a miserable person around them, remember that. They will eventually deaden your unpleasant mood. Self-discipline is important, especially in today’s society.

I’d love to hear about your routine, too. Feel free to share your morning here in the comments.

Unwanted task: Adulting

“Relax. You will become an adult. You will figure out your career. You will find someone who loves you. You have a whole lifetime; time takes time. The only way to fail at life is to abstain.”

I don’t know who told us to grow up so quick. I couldn’t wait to turn 18 years old so I can say “I’m grown now, don’t tell me what to do”. I was excited to start working and make money. Quickly after, I realize the responsibilities that comes with having money and thinking you are grown. Adults have a lot of responsibilities that never cross my mind. I just wanted to say “I am grown now”, and I didn’t actually want to grow up, Funny as it sounds.  The start of College, being on Campus and having to take care of myself. At first I was happy to have freedom, no parents telling me what to do. Then it hits me, I have to feed myself, do my laundry and manage my money and school work. No lies I was struggling, any college students that was acting they had their shit together was just putting on an act. The things we all had in common, we were tired and broke, and can barely afford to take care of ourselves.

By the time I became a senior, I had the responsibilities thing down, well I was still a broke college student, but I managed to take care of myself pretty well. Every school had that teacher that put fears in you about the real world “this is not going to be acceptable in the real world” …..Whatever that means. Sometimes I would take my teacher serious, other times I liked being a smart ass by asking him “so how’s adult life for you, is it working out the way you want” He would laugh knowing I was joking. I’m sure he notices none of us had a clue what adulthood is. There’s certain level to being adult.

What makes you an adult?

Is it just taking care of yourself and your responsibilities?

Is it maturity?  Is it how we care for others or about the world?

So here I am, in my mid twenties, still trying to figure out what “Adulthood” is. There’s a lot of pressure after graduating, have to find a job, a place to live, and the most important of them all school loans to pay back.  Honestly, I don’t know if there’s an exact way to define to being an adult.  We are all just trying to live life to the best we can. At some point in our lives we all graduate from childhood into adulthood.

“Being silly is still allowed, not excluded by adulthood. What’s excluded by adulthood is thoughtlessness, so be thoughtful and silly” 

Good Practitioner

“While the journey seems long and hard at the beginning with perseverance and dedication the rewards at the end last a lifetime.”

As life goes on ,you learn the best teacher of life is experience and the progress of the journey we all go through. You have to want to change for any kind of transition to occur. Asking yourself, Can I do it? Am I good enough? Where do I begin? Won’t get you anywhere till you act. We all need guidance and have problems we want to get over whether in our personal or professional lives.

You must have confidence in your abilities.

Remember you have the power, the strength inside you.  There is nothing you cannot overcome.

You are capable of achieving the goals you set for yourself.

If you find yourself having the opportunity to do more good in one day, take advantage of it. Most of the time we are so busy and entwine in our lives that we forget about everything else around us. Despite all the difficulty of life and roadblocks to just be, you must make it worth it. Work on yourself for as long as you need. It takes human understanding, reason and courage to be a good practitioner.

“You are a good practitioner” Tell yourself that over and over till you finally understand what it means to you.

Believe in yourself, you can do anything

“Anything worth doing good takes a little chaos.”

Flaws & All

“We all have our imperfections. But I’m human, and you know, it’s important to concentrate on other qualities besides outer beauty”.

The first thing people notice about you is your appearance. Most people will never admit it, but let’s be honest, you do care how others sees you. It’s easy to want to be flawless and perfect, but that’s literally impossible. Remember you will never be able to please every single person. A lot of us are still struggling with self-esteem and what it means to find self-love and be satisfied with that.

Beauty is only skin deep & Take me as I am– What does that mean to you?

What do you think it means when people say that beauty comes from the inside?

There are other ways of being “beautiful” besides being visually beautiful. Don’t compare yourself to others, who you think are better than you. From far it can look effortless, that we can be flawless and perfect. The more imperfections you have, the more you can look past superficial qualities.

“People like to pick at your imperfections, and that can be very hard on you as a person. I think, a lot of times, people forget that we’re human beings and some of us are fighting self-esteem issues already”.

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