For The Love Around

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”― Lao Tzu

For the love of love, love yourself, love the people around you and be loved. We seem to love the idea of love, rather than knowing what love is. There’s a lot of different love to experience in this world. Everyone gives and receives love differently.  Some of us are just better at giving love and experiencing the different stages of love. Remember to look for and choose the love that makes you feel alive and excited about life.   

Unconditional Love: The love we all want to receive, because humans are inherently selfish.

Romantic Love: The intimate love, the need to connect with the one you have feelings for.

Familiar Love:  The love from friends and family members who are there for us through thick and thin.

Self-love: Ahhh this love is, the most important love of them all, you cannot freely love others , if you don’t love yourself first. Be confident in loving everything about you.

“ Don’t be selfish with love, experience the joy that it has to offer” 

When It Comes To Making Time

“Time is a created thing. To say ‘I don’t have time,’ is like saying, ‘I don’t want to.”

We make time for the things we want to make time for. That may be true, but some of us are really busy and struggling to make time for the people around us. As we enter the so called adulthood, there’s many things to think about and changing some of our habits. It’s hard balancing a professional and social life. Nonetheless, complaining about life doesn’t get us anywhere.

What are you making time for 

What do you value the most

How important is your time

We make ourselves believe we have all the time in the world. Which comes the question “ How much time do we really have”? Adulthood makes us question so many things about life. 

Do we have enough time to achieve our goals?

When will our dreams come true?

How long will it take to make it in life? (Whatever that means)

Time is all that you have & don’t have, only you control what you use yours for. 

Let’s Hangout: Building Relationship

Let’s Hangout; Something to Change

Everyone is so busy living their lives that we’re forgetting to build relationships that will last. Relationship with people that will be there for us at the lowest and highest point of our lives. Me time is important , so is building relationships with those around us. Me time helps you with a healthy lifestyle, a better you, and a peaceful day. Building relationships helps with an understanding of human life, what it means to rely on someone, vice versa and just being there for someone who might need you.

Let’s hangout, but when I have time. Well we need to start making time, there are things in life that are more enjoyable by experiencing it with family and friends. Let’s start making time for those around us; make the effort to mind the people that cares for us. A phone call, a text of “ How are you “. Form a connection that means something, a connection that benefits the relationships. Let’s make time to hangout and get to know each other. Take time to appreciate the relationships that make a difference in your life.

Come To Your Senses

“By changing nothing, nothing changes.”

Tell me something, are you OK

Is it so hard, are you still struggling 

Do you still don’t know what to do 

Are you trying to figure stuff out 

Exactly how long do you need 

Exactly what kind of change will you make 

Exactly how will you change 

Is there a need for change 

Think about it……….. again……… think about it

I can tell you to change your life many times, but if you just wanna sit there and complain and complain nothing is going to happen .you are just going to be someone who complains about life. I don’t know if that’s a good thing, it’s definitely not a good thing. nobody wants to be around someone who complains all the time. Sometimes, actions speak louder than words.  you need to start as of now. You need to want to change

To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often.

“I believe that no matter what situation in life you find yourself, there is room for you to take control of little things, which ultimately adds up to big things.”

Tell me something, how are you feeling about yourself. Everyone seems to be on the grind with new ventures and new ideas planned out for the new year. Its time for you to push yourself and take the first step of implementing your ideas.

Embrace what makes you, YOU, use your strength to your benefit, if you don’t know what your strengths are, figure them out, write them down. Don’t compare yourself to others, that puts you in a place of disadvantage. 

Familiarities and comfort are sometimes the weaknesses you might fail to identify. Don’t get too comfortable and become enervated. It takes time to reverse the effects of being too comfortable and personality traits that hold you back. Get to work, start planning and organizing your ideas.

“Moving forward requires that one first take a step.”

  • Start Small
  • Write down a list of your ideas
  • Don’t let fear stop you
  • Tackle procrastination head-on
  • Reward yourself
  • Visualize yourself succeeding
  • Chose success. 

To New Experiences & New Memories

“You’ll never get bored when you try something new. There’s really no limit to what you can do.” 

It’s a brand new day and new year to try something different. The term “ New Year, New Me” may seem overrated, but there can be a new you,  if you work to find a better version of yourself. In the word of Steve Harvey “You are never too old to reinvent yourself.” so here’s to new experiences, new goals to achieve, new adventures, and new memories. 

Happy New Year; May 2020 bring you more happiness, more of everything you are looking forward to. 

“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.”C.S. Lewis

“I don’t think Christmas is necessarily about things. It’s about being good to one another, it’s about kindness.”

I’ve noticed a lot of memes saying” Everyone gift is still at the store. It may be funny, but there’s much truth behind it. We are all struggling in some way with bills, student loans, and living expenses. Due to society’s obsession with materialistic things, we’ve made giving a Christmas gift a necessity. 

Be in the holiday spirits, and be joyful, but don’t stress yourself out buying gifts you cannot afford. There’s also this saying” it’s the thought that counts” live by that as well. Any kind of gift shows your thoughtfulness.   

ANNOUNCEMENT: A Christmas card, is also a gift.  

In the name of Self Care & Self-Love

“As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.” —Maya Angelou

A lot of us forget to put ourselves first in life, so how are you doing in the self-care department? Everyone should know the term self -care or self-love.

  • The practices of taking action to preserve or improve one’s own health.
  • The practices of taking an active role in protecting one’s own well-being and happiness, in particular during periods of stress.
    “expressing oneself is an essential form of self-care”

It is more important to be true to yourself than to try to satisfy everyone else and get hurt along the way, remember you have the right to be yourself. Your time and energy are precious, so do something nice for yourself. Find what puts a smile on your face, sit in stillness, put your problems on pause even if its just a for a day. you need to take the time to look after yourself.

A round of applause for everyone who is trying hard to make it on their own.

“You owe yourself the love that you so freely give others.” – 

  • Develop a regular sleep routine.
  • Go for a walk at lunchtime.
  • Get some exercise before/after work regularly.
  • Keep a reflective journal.
  • Engage with a non-work hobby.
  • Turn off your email and work phone outside of work hours.
  • Make time for relaxation.
  • Make time to engage with positive friends and family.
  • Develop friendships that are supportive.
  • Go to the movies or do something else you enjoy.

This and That of the World

“The problem for a lot of people is that they don’t really know what they want. They have vague desire: to ‘do something creative’ or to earn more money or ‘to be free’, but they can’t really pin down what it is precisely that they want.”

The world only tells you are special when it needs you, not when you need it.

Why am I here? Why is this me?

Why don’t have this? why don’t have that ?

Why am I not doing something amazing?

Why am I not doing everything I want in life?

Sometimes people forget the things they actually do have. People tell you to be grateful you have a house, some people are homeless. Be grateful you have clean water, kids in the continent of Africa don’t have water. There will always be someone less fortunate, sadly as it is.

Be grateful you have this, be grateful you have that

Understand we are all grateful for the things we have, but you can also be sad, frustrated, mad at the world about how you living life. you can be whatever emotions arose….remember being a human being is hard

There you go again

“Happiness is dependent on self-discipline. We are the biggest obstacle to our own happiness. It is much easier to do battle with society and with others than to fight our own nature.”

Promising yourself to do better, yet again nothing’s happening . Claiming your luck to shine, yet You not shining. Saying it’s a brand new day, yet you are still acting miserable.

Tell me, do you know the difference between self-discipline and habits.

Have you realized, you have no self-discipline. Stop Sulking, are you ready to stop being in denial .
I don’t have to tell you what you need to do.

There you go again living your life worrying about nonsense

There you go again not doing what needs to be done

Manners: Getting Too Comfortable

Don’t get too comfortable with who you are at any given time – you may miss the opportunity to become who you want to be.     Jon Bon Jovi

We all get comfortable as time goes by, whether in a relationship or at a job. We plant ourselves to stay comfortable when it’s probably uncomfortable. Don’t sit around doing the same old things while expecting different outcomes. Your actions and attitude affect those around you, take notice to see what needs to be change. 

Do you secretly want something better? 

Are you really taking care of yourself?

Relationship: Just because you’ve settled into your relationship doesn’t mean you can become lazy and stop going out for date nights, and other outings that you used to do together. 

Job: As steady as your job may be, you should never assume your job will always be there; you are not irreplaceable. You should always work towards expanding your abilities.

 Get in the habit of stepping out of your comfort zone by

  • First, stop being lazy
  • Doing something new for the first time
  • Learning a new language, about different cultures
  • Doing something spontaneous, open your mind to different opportunities

An act of Kindness

“Carry out a random act of kindness, with no expectation of reward, safe in the knowledge that one day someone might do the same for you.” Princess Diana

Kindness is rare and beautiful, there is no such thing as a small act of kindness. Lead by example, don’t wait till you see someone doing an act of kindness for you to do so. We get so entwine in our own world sometimes that we forget to mind those around us. Learn how to treat others with the love and kindness that they deserve. Human relationships takes time, you can’t build a relationship without generosity, integrity and kindness. Contribute to the kindness that this world is missing.

Because kindness is:

  • being supportive
  • being appreciative
  • being mindful of others
  • being a decent human being


“Recognition is a reward in itself. Any form of appreciation, even a small word, is important.”

Remember to appreciate small moments, like your smile, reading a book, time alone, and sitting quietly. Be your own cheerleader, motivate and appreciate yourself; it’s important to know your worth and be able to cheer yourself up. By now you should know your happiness depends on you.  Its human nature to feel happiness and a new sense of purpose when others demonstrate their appreciation towards you. Lack of appreciation can prevent you from moving towards a positive direction.  Appreciate those around you, and most importantly appreciate yourself. Being appreciative and expressing your gratitude is a significant part of being happy in life.

Who do I appreciate?

Who is always there for me, and how do I feel about them?

What opportunities do I have that I am thankful for? 

What am I taking for granted ?

What’s improved about my life from this time last year?

“Kindness is a language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.” —Mark Twain

Goodbye summer; Hello fall

“You can’t reach your potential by remaining in a past due season. Your breakthrough is coming. Strongholds are breaking. Get Ready!”

Finally fall is here, one of my favorite time of the year, when it’s not too hot nor cold. As I looked back I realized all I did was work this summer, no time for a summer vacation. I enjoyed myself in other ways, by going hiking, trying different cuisines, and meeting new people through writers workshop. Trying different things helped me to be more open-minded and more aware of my surroundings.

It’s a new day, new season, so what are you thinking of doing differently. May this season bring you joy and new beginnings. Get used to falling and getting back up again to find your path to improve. You already possess the tools you need to live the life you want, so do what you must to have a healthy version of yourself.

“Every day, every year, every new season is a reset from the last, and you are still hungry for success, to do things better and better”

Generosity; what goes around, comes around

“If your actions were to boomerang back on you instantly, would you still act the same? Doing to others an act you’d rather not have done to you reveals a powerful internal conflict.”

What goes around, comes back around, we all heard that before, but that has not stop some people from being immoral human beings. Remember Karma, in which some of us believe in. To each of their own I say, but you must remember what you give out is what you will receive in life. But seriously, I get it we all make mistakes, but is it really so hard to be a decent person. Just treat others as you want to be treated. Nonetheless some of us must remain compassionate and generous; that’s one way to be at peace. Do yourselves a favor, don’t take everything personally, not everyone know the basics of building a healthy relationship.

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