Unwanted task: Adulting

“Relax. You will become an adult. You will figure out your career. You will find someone who loves you. You have a whole lifetime; time takes time. The only way to fail at life is to abstain.”

I don’t know who told us to grow up so quick. I couldn’t wait to turn 18 years old so I can say “I’m grown now, don’t tell me what to do”. I was excited to start working and make money. Quickly after, I realize the responsibilities that comes with having money and thinking you are grown. Adults have a lot of responsibilities that never cross my mind. I just wanted to say “I am grown now”, and I didn’t actually want to grow up, Funny as it sounds.  The start of College, being on Campus and having to take care of myself. At first I was happy to have freedom, no parents telling me what to do. Then it hits me, I have to feed myself, do my laundry and manage my money and school work. No lies I was struggling, any college students that was acting they had their shit together was just putting on an act. The things we all had in common, we were tired and broke, and can barely afford to take care of ourselves.

By the time I became a senior, I had the responsibilities thing down, well I was still a broke college student, but I managed to take care of myself pretty well. Every school had that teacher that put fears in you about the real world “this is not going to be acceptable in the real world” …..Whatever that means. Sometimes I would take my teacher serious, other times I liked being a smart ass by asking him “so how’s adult life for you, is it working out the way you want” He would laugh knowing I was joking. I’m sure he notices none of us had a clue what adulthood is. There’s certain level to being adult.

What makes you an adult?

Is it just taking care of yourself and your responsibilities?

Is it maturity?  Is it how we care for others or about the world?

So here I am, in my mid twenties, still trying to figure out what “Adulthood” is. There’s a lot of pressure after graduating, have to find a job, a place to live, and the most important of them all school loans to pay back.  Honestly, I don’t know if there’s an exact way to define to being an adult.  We are all just trying to live life to the best we can. At some point in our lives we all graduate from childhood into adulthood.

“Being silly is still allowed, not excluded by adulthood. What’s excluded by adulthood is thoughtlessness, so be thoughtful and silly” 

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